In my wife’s defence, I say that EVERYONE occasionally says things they should not have. Sometime our minds can’t think of things fast enough. Brains can’t think of the ramifications of EVERYTHING. Yesterday she said something that caused a big conflict in my mind.
She said, “____________.” (You fill in the blank with your spouse’s own hurtful words.) I was really hurt. I was wondering how I could write more blog posts about happy marriages if that was her permanent attitude.
I spent the day processing her comment. Before bedtime I had decided how to respond.
Solving the conflict
The next morning, just as we were starting our coffee break, I told her that there was something important I had to say. I told her that ____________ was really inappropriate and hurtful. I gave her a Bible reference as part of my defence.
She said, “I’m sorry. It won’t happen again.” I said that I forgive her.
Guess what? The conflict completely disappeared.
What do you do if your spouse ever says ,”___________________?” (Fill in the blank with whatever words caused the problem.)
Hopefully you & your spouse will have got into the habit of quickly apologizing & forgiving. If so, your conflicts will fizzle out.