Vicariously experience what is happening
Understanding how empathy fits into a marriage can profoundly increase your quality of life.
Here’s the Dictionary.com‘s definition of Empathy — the psychological identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another.
The Merriam-Webster dictionary gives a better understanding of the word. It says we experience the feelings vicariously without those feelings being communicated explicitly.
As if you two are one person
Empathize with your spouse and act accordingly. If he/she is unhappy about something, experience it vicariously & try to remedy the situation.
Successful marriages are totally unselfish. Your spouse’s needs are of primary importance in your life.
You’re like one person. So, do whatever is best for the whole you. Even the Bible says that the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Mark 10:8.
Empathy increasing the quality of your marriage
For example, suppose you sense that your spouse really enjoys doing crossword puzzles. Without it being expressed explicitly, you sense that she would really like it if you enjoyed crossword puzzles equally well.
So, you go online and find out as much as you can about crossword puzzles. You hone your skills a bit and then start doing them together with your spouse.
As you are doing the crossword puzzles together, you are relating more & your love grows.
Avoidance is easy
Suppose your spouse really enjoys something you’ve never done much. It’s easy to distance yourself and maybe even demean them for enjoying their particular pastime.
You may be missing out on an opportunity to get closer to your spouse and therefore deeper in love.
Love is a decision
Love is a decision. You can decide that you are going to love someone.
Perhaps you’ve read a number of posts on this blog. You may even decide that you are going to love your spouse more than ever. You may even have decided upon a strategy for making that happen.
Developing more empathy for your spouse is a good start.
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