A Revelation that Changed My Life
About 20 years ago I got a revelation about consideration & respect. It changed my marriage forever. It’s among the best revelations that ever happened to me — or to my wife.
Recently I shared it with a 30-something married man. Two weeks later he said that his marriage was 1000 times better.
Consideration & respect
It all started when our pastor told the congregation that it was easy to have a good marriage. All you had to do was take 1 Peter 3:7 seriously. I went home & looked up the reference and mediated on it for days.
It said: Husbands, treat your wives with consideration and respect so that your prayers will not go unanswered. I eventually decided that not treating my wife with courtesy and respect at all times was stupid behaviour. Among other things, it would put me under a curse. I feel that not having my prayers answered would be a curse.
At first I told my wife nothing about what I was thinking. I just started trying to treat her with consideration & respect every minute of every day. After a few days I found that she started treating me better.
Solving BIG problems
Back in the 1960s some NASA people wanted to send men to the moon. That was a BIG problem. One of the people drew a sketch of what would become the Saturn V rocket that took men to the moon. It was drawn on a napkin.
That’s an example of looking at a small component of a big problem and using it to eventually solve the big problem.
By aiming towards treating my wife with consideration & respect every minute of every day, I improved our marriage forever.