A Revelation that Changed My Life
About 20 years ago I got a revelation about consideration & respect. It changed my marriage forever. It’s among the best revelations that ever happened to me — or to my wife.
Recently I shared it with a 30-something married man. Two weeks later he said that his marriage was 1000 times better.
Consideration & respect
It all started when our pastor told the congregation that it was easy to have a good marriage. All you had to do was take 1 Peter 3:7 seriously. I went home & looked up the reference and mediated on it for days.
It said: Husbands, treat your wives with consideration and respect so that your prayers will not go unanswered. I eventually decided that not treating my wife with courtesy and respect at all times was stupid behaviour. Among other things, it would put me under a curse. I feel that not having my prayers answered would be a curse.
At first I told my wife nothing about what I was thinking. I just started trying to treat her with consideration & respect every minute of every day. After a few days I found that she started treating me better.
Solving BIG problems
Back in the 1960s some NASA people wanted to send men to the moon. That was a BIG problem. One of the people drew a sketch of what would become the Saturn V rocket that took men to the moon. It was drawn on a napkin.
That’s an example of looking at a small component of a big problem and using it to eventually solve the big problem.
Similarly you can solve marriage problems by looking at the small components. In my case, it was looking at every minute of every day. Then I made sure it was filled with consideration & respect.
By aiming towards treating my wife with consideration & respect every minute of every day, I improved our marriage forever.