How to make a budget spreadsheet A social worker once let me know that the 3 big causes of marital stress are communication, sex & money. This page is about money. You manage your money using a budget spreadsheet. Make a budget and update it weekly. For the first few months, do that as a… Continue reading Budget Spreadsheet to Reduce Stress Levels
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This Is How to Have an Amazing Marriage
5 secrets Perhaps it was an accident or perhaps it was a series of “God-incidences”. But, somehow we figured out 5 simple secrets for having an amazing marriage — EVERY DAY. To have a stressful minute is a rarity. These are the 5 secrets in reverse order of importance: 5. Lots of variety Make sure… Continue reading This Is How to Have an Amazing Marriage
Family, How We Developed Such a Close One
Time and the Family In our family I like to get on the same level as my grandchildren. I want to make each one feel as though they are the only person in the world that I am thinking about. This one was getting his slobbery hands onto my face & glasses. I tried angling… Continue reading Family, How We Developed Such a Close One
Commitment, a Secret to Simplifying & Enriching Your Marriage
My thoughts on commitment As I was thinking about how to write a blog post about commitment, I became aware of a truth. Unconsciously my wife & I had decided to be totally committed to our marriage. By doing so we were really simplifying our job of creating a happy marriage. We knew we were in… Continue reading Commitment, a Secret to Simplifying & Enriching Your Marriage
Conflict, How to Solve a Big One When It Happens
Hurtful words In my wife’s defence, I say that EVERYONE occasionally says things they should not have. Sometime our minds can’t think of things fast enough. Brains can’t think of the ramifications of EVERYTHING. Yesterday she said something that caused a big conflict in my mind. She said, “____________.” (You fill in the blank with… Continue reading Conflict, How to Solve a Big One When It Happens
Empathy, Using It to Create a Beautiful Marriage
Vicariously experience what is happening Understanding how empathy fits into a marriage can profoundly increase your quality of life. Here’s the Dictionary.com‘s definition of Empathy — the psychological identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another. The Merriam-Webster dictionary gives a better understanding of the word. It says we experience the feelings vicariously without… Continue reading Empathy, Using It to Create a Beautiful Marriage
Time, Budget It Well to Create a Beautiful Marriage
My wife NEEDS my time My wife seems to love being with me. So, I give her lots of time. It does not have to be “quality” time; it’s just time together. However, I have other things to do rather than being with her all the time. I often have to explain her what I… Continue reading Time, Budget It Well to Create a Beautiful Marriage
Forgiving, a Secret for Improving Your Marriage
Lots of forgiving If you’ve read the very first 3 or 4 posts in this blog, you may be assuming that my wife & I had a near-perfect marriage from the beginning. Not so. We married as two people with slightly different value systems and different mindsets. Forgiving one another for offences played a huge… Continue reading Forgiving, a Secret for Improving Your Marriage
Romantic Spouse to Renew the Spark in Your Marriage
What does romantic mean? I once overheard my wife tell her hair stylist that I was the most romantic man in our city. While that may be an exaggeration, I do know lots about the topic. At one point in my married life I decided that I was not romantic enough. I decided that romantic… Continue reading Romantic Spouse to Renew the Spark in Your Marriage
Love Languages, Communicating with All 5 of Them
Swahili won’t work What if I was speaking to my wife in Swahili all the time & she doesn’t understand it? We’d have communication problems. In the same way we have communication problems if we don’t use the right love languages. Less than mediocre Don said that he & his wife Joanne had a marriage… Continue reading Love Languages, Communicating with All 5 of Them
