Time
Time Together Should Bring You Closer — Not Leave You Feeling Alone
Linda & I are super close. And we spend lots of time together. I suspect that’s the main reason we are so super close.
Every morning, 7 days a week, we have coffee together before breakfast. We also have coffee together every afternoon.
We try to talk about the things on our hearts — often the deeply personal things. Now that I think about it, the topics we talk about are things that do bring us closer together.
Every evening, 5 days a week, we watch our favorite TV program (Flashpoint) together. This afternoon we’re going to our kids’ place (including 4 grandchildren) for supper.
We just intensionally spend lots of time together.
In a strong marriage, time is not just something you spend…it’s something that creates connection, warmth, and emotional closeness.
Time Is the Currency of Love
- Every relationship runs on time.
- But not all time creates connection.
- Time without attention does not create closeness.
- The difference is simple:
- Distracted time → emotional distance
- Intentional time → emotional connection
Presence Matters More Than Quantity
You don’t need hours of time to feel close.
What matters is whether your spouse feels seen, heard, and valued in the moment. A few minutes of full attention can mean more than hours of distraction.
Small Daily Moments Build Real Connection
Connection is not built through rare big events.
It grows through small, consistent moments:
- Talking without distractions
- Sharing a quiet walk
- Listening fully
Attention Is What Creates Emotional Closeness
Many couples spend time together while their attention is somewhere else. Phones, screens, and constant distractions quietly erode connection.
You Don’t Need More Time
Most couples believe the solution is finding more time. But the real shift is simpler than that. You don’t need more time…you need more presence in the time you already have.
When attention changes, everything begins to feel different.
Why Time Is Important in Marriage
Time in marriage is essential because it creates emotional connection, trust, and closeness. However, simply spending time together is not enough. Quality time with a spouse requires attention, presence, and intentional interaction. When couples focus on meaningful time together, their relationship becomes stronger, more peaceful, and more fulfilling.
This Is Just One Piece of a Deeply Connected Marriage
Time is powerful.
But real, lasting closeness comes from a combination of daily habits:
- Consideration & Respect
- Communication
- Empathy
- Intimacy
- Forgiveness
- Commitment
Each one builds on the other.
